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Nor are his clients, or whomever he serves day-in and day-out, holding strong opinions on what you should or should not be doing right now. Some realize it. Consequently, she often finds herself with a heavy armload of her own secrets. Here are a couple:. Most churchgoers expect her to be more mature and knowledgeable than they are. All of this, alongside her desire to be an encouraging role model for the women of the church, leads to her feeling a massive pressure to be perfect.
However, she is far from perfect. She messes up all the time.
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This all leads to the feeling that there is no safe place within the church for her to lay out the messiness of her own soul. However, if she never shares her junk you will accuse her of being unapproachable and stand-off-ish at best or an arrogant snob at worst. There are things about your church she dislikes and is disappointed in.
The Bible does not address the involvement of the pastor's wife in any ministry. In other words, the pastor and his wife determine how active the pastor's wife should be.
The main area of responsibility for any wife is to support and be submissive to her husband Ephesians However, if the Lord calls a man into the ministry, He calls the whole man, and that includes the man's wife and his family. The wife does not do the work of the pastor, but the pastor and his wife are a team who are yoked together to do God's work. Few recognize the reality of this and want to put the pastor's wife in a box and delegate to her to do some type of traditional church work, submitting, keeping the home fires burning, and of course, being a prayer supporter for her husband.
That certainly is a responsibility, but quite often the pastor's wife has gifts that can and should be used in the ministry. As a pastor's wife, she would not be necessarily employed by the church, but would utilize her God-given gifts to volunteer in different areas of ministry. She then went on to say that her priorities are to God first, then to her husband and children, and then to the members of the church.
She will often analyze sermons, catching grammatical errors, smile in the face of criticism and negative comments about her husband and children. There is no other occupation — besides, perhaps, being the actual First Lady — in which a spouse is so defined by what her husband does. I cannot think of a single instance in which a woman was expected to give up her gifts and calling in service of her husband, the dentist…Or lawyer…Or plumber. But a woman who is married to a pastor will inevitably face expectations about her role in the congregation that have nothing to do with how she is gifted by God.
She is often a nurse, healing emotional wounds that seem to cause many pastors to give up.
She is a counselor that helps her husband to work out difficulties that are too close for him to see. She is a lover and protector to shield him from harm and to provide the loving care that is so vitally needed, especially when one feels they are in a lonely profession. It is a patient love, almost as if the person they are helping is a small child. Other difficulties may include career pursuits outside of the church. It is wise to address this issue before accepting the church.
Balance in the ministry is very important as well as setting priorities with yourself, your husband, family, and church. Many of our pastors and spouses have chosen to be co-pastors in the church. The husband is actually the lead pastor but giving a place of respect for his spouse, as they are one. Co-pastors often share in the goals and vision of the church, sometimes filling the pulpit or sharing a word of encouragement to the body. Most co-pastors allow the lead pastor, which is usually the husband, to assume the business responsibilities, counseling, and be more visible in the regular duties of a pastor.
The Pastor's Wife as a Helpmeet
Whether you designate for both of you, being co-pastors, there is definitely strength in numbers. I mentioned earlier about God calling the whole man, both husband and wife, becoming one flesh. It is very powerful in the spiritual realm. You can approach the specific area of ministry to which your husband is called as a team. How you divide up the work will be up to the two of you based on your personal gift sets and prayer as you seek God's plan. Too often, a pastor can be so busy helping and giving out to others, he neglects family life and intimacy with his wife.
If your husband can do no wrong in your eyes, if your words to him are always praising him, you will suffer from praise inflation. So, ask the Lord when to brag on him, when to mention the negatives, and when to be silent. The Lord alone is going to meet all her needs. Ruth Graham has said many a wife makes the mistake of expecting her man to be to her what only Jesus can be. So, let the wife have her place of prayer in the home and a time as early in the day as she can, to draw herself close to the Lord in Scripture and prayer and quietness.
The demands on her will be overwhelming if she fails to do this. If she gives him only endless praise—not that I know of a single wife who does this! This means that sometimes when he asks how a sermon went over, she will speak truth even if not all the truth.
After all, she loves this man in every way possible. She was married to a pastor friend of mine for over 50 years. But not me. I love listening to them. She will work at knowing the best time to bring up matters, and when he needs to be left alone in quietness. Does she need to take his phone when he comes into the house?
Convince him to shut the phone off completely on his off days? Most pastors will need their spouses to take a firm stand from time to time, to insist on something the family must have and there are no two ways about it. When we were six or seven years into our marriage, my wife began asking me to go with her for marriage counsel.
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When I refused—my pride was at stake, I felt, a very foolish notion—she went without me. And that was a good thing. That got my attention. We saw that counselor for a solid year, and gave him credit for saving our marriage. When someone said to Anne Graham Lotz how much they admired her father, the esteemed Dr. We have read enough of the Graham family story to know the truth of that. Not taking anything away from the great preacher, but his amazing wife had to stay home and raise the five children while dealing with the unending demands on her personal life as the wife of a famous man, one who traveled the world and received unending acclaim, then came home just long enough to change clothes.
She will have seen it all, and have a perspective invaluable to the younger woman.
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They will not spend the time running down their husbands and if one starts, the others speak up and say that is forbidden in this group or criticizing the deacons. They will have a thousand things in common and be able to share and pray for each other. They could even bring their children and have a teen to ride herd on the kids in the play room while the mothers meet and chat.